The Princess Problem Book


I have two girls.  My sister has two girls.  My brother also has, you guessed it, two girls.  Needless to say between our three homes there’s a LOT of pink.  And sparkles.  And tulle.  All of which is great!  But at times has me thinking- is this what THEY want?

When I was pregnant with my baby girl I made the big decision to not find out the gender of the baby.  I had the thought in mind of having a baby born with no expectations whatsoever.  At the baby shower there were no all blue or all pink clothes given.  The toys were all very neutral and diverse.  The nursery was not shimmery or filled with cars.  People would ask me, HOW could you not know what you’re having?!  How will people know what to get you?  It struck me as odd that things had to be filed into a specific category.

Then I got my hands on The Princess Problem by Rebecca C. Hains, PhD, I was very interested to get her take on the way our society has put such strict gender stereotypes out there.  Her book made me see that I’m not alone in my thinking.  The ‘princess craze’ that girls are in is everywhere.  As stated in the book:

… Disney Princess is the number-one licensed entertainment line in the United States and Canada…

What’s the problem with princesses?  In my opinion, there is no problem, in moderation.  But our girls are being bombarded by them.  From toys to clothes to movies, even snacks, are all emblazoned with princesses.  The Princess Problem goes on to address the limitations for the majority of the princesses, especially their focus on love, appearance, and little else.  Our girls need to grow up knowing there is more to them besides just how they look.

In The Princess Problem, Dr. Hains discusses how we as parents can take a pro-active stance in how our children view, think, and criticize the media they are exposed to.  She delves into how this princess obsession impacts our children, as well as how Disney has branded themselves to appeal to adults.  This branding then guarantees that adults will grow up with the princesses, and in turn, will expose their own children to loving and being surrounded by this brand as well.

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I highly recommend The Princess Problem for parents of girls and boys alike.  Dr. Hains has written a great resource that can be used to help communicate with our daughters and sons about their feelings of themselves, the media, and how girls and women are portrayed.  The Princess Problem offers real-life advice and practical tools to help us empower our girls into becoming what THEY want to be, and not what they think others want them to be.

Buy: You can purchase The Princess Problem at retailers for $14.99.  However, you can pick up paperback version on Amazon for $10.82 or a Kindle version for $9.99


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About Author

Mia resides in Florida and is a happily married, stay-at-home mom to her 7-year-old stepdaughter and her baby girl. When she’s not busy changing diapers and running to gymnastics practice, she enjoys photography, gardening, and crafts. She is also very involved in her local babywearing and breastfeeding communities and enjoys helping other new moms navigate being a new parent. Besides writing, she is currently undergoing her latest endeavor of starting her own business specializing in baby items. Mia enjoys the opportunities to try out and review all different types of items with her family.


  1. Vickie Couturier on

    my daughter was taught that she could do anything a boy could do,,maybe not as good as some and maybe better than others,,her choice to try,,she was the only girl on her scoccer team,,that was interesting,but she did just as good as the boys did,,but she only played the one year,,our rule is you can play any sport but once you start you have to finish,,so she didn’t like scoccer but finished and never played again,she loved Cheerleading and was happy with that,,but we let her choose what to do,,she did play softball but didn’t like that either ,so only one year of that

  2. With my niece I’m always trying to help her realize that she can do things for herself and doesn’t have to be rescued like the princesses in some stories. Whenever I see girls and women in real life and in movies being good role models I’ll say something about it so she pays attention and will hopefully internalize it.

  3. What an awesome book. We need to teach our girls that there are more important things in life than just focusing on their looks. This book sounds interesting in that it teaches your girls and boys to be what they want to be and not be forced to fit into a role that they do not want.

  4. I have worked hard to teach my daughter that it is totally okay to be who she is. She does not have to wear ruffles and lace or a tiara to make her a girl. It’s what’s inside of her that counts — not the outside. Sounds like a great book.

  5. I found out with both my girls the sex before they were born because I like to be prepared. We raised them to love science and math, coming from a family of scientists. My oldest is teaching math and both are confirmed nerds. They were never really into princesses but did play with Barbie dolls.

  6. This sounds like a good book. I should start paying more attention to this issue with my own daughter, especially while she is still only four years old. She is pretty well-rounded as it is.

  7. This sounds like a great book. I was always taught that I could do anything and I tried to pass that on to my son. There is too much focus on the gender aspects and not enough on learning what you are capable of doing and being the best you can be. Thank you for sharing this book!

  8. I teach my girls to love who they are and that they do not need to be anyone else but that, not even a princess.

  9. I let them know that they’re special because God don’t make no junk. I also recognize all their individual talents and praise them. Thanks.

  10. I just try to emphasize being confident and always working hard to do the right thing instead of worrying about things that are not important in the long run.

  11. Thankfully, even though my daughter liked the Disney princesses, she did not obsess over them. She was more of a self-reliant, self-confident and “can-do” girl. Now, she is a self-confident, can-do, self-reliant wife and mother.

  12. I don’t have children — yet — but am always mindful of the gender sterotyping that goes on and try to ask about things like favorite books because all kids love books and it’s not complimenting a girl on her looks or a boy on his strength.

  13. My daughter was a huge tomboy and her friend was the princess type. I don’t think one can do too much, they are what they are.

  14. I have triplets, all girls and very much into being a princess. I’m glad to learn of this book and look forward to reading it.Rene Chartier

  15. i try to be a strong role model and i do not do a lot of stereo typical female things. i feel we can be a nice mixture.

  16. This is great! I’m trying to teach my boys that love and relationships need teamwork, not a fairytale. They need to set their expectations to something that is attainable and, sadly, a fairytale is not.

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