The thought of losing someone you love is awful. It is hard, and it is painful. It brings up difficult emotions that can haunt you for days.
My husband is a Police Captain, and currently he works behind a desk most days (thank goodness!). It wasn’t always this way though. When we were first married, he was an officer out on the streets, and I was one worried wife. What would I do if something happened to him? Of course things can happen in the blink of an eye, in any profession, and in life, but him being so close to criminals on a daily basis made me worry just a bit more perhaps. We had small children and since I was a stay-at-home mom, I had no idea what I would do in this situation. Not only would I be dealing with tremendous grief, but I would be struggling to figure out how my children and I would survive without his salary.
As the years have passed, and my husband has promoted to a job behind the desk, I feel somewhat at ease. There are always things outside of work that could take me away from him, and that terrifies me. It feels me with sadness, and all I can do is enjoy every day I have with him.
The next thing on our “to-do” list is making sure we have a living trust in place. My dad passed away last year, and he had a living trust which has helped us immensely. I highly recommend that every couple do this. It is a must in my book, for the survivors.
Sometimes being a “grown-up” and doing the right things is no fun, but they are necessary nonetheless. Life throws curve balls and sometimes lives end tragically and unexpectedly. Be prepared for you, your spouse, and your children. Your preparedness is the greatest gift you can leave them.