A new relationship can be exhilarating. As this special someone starts to become an increasingly important part of your life, you might be wondering about the direction the two of you are heading. But it’s not usually the sort of thing you can just ask … can you? It’s totally normal to feel nervous at this point because a DTR could put the relationship at risk if you aren’t both on the same page. But if you don’t talk about it, how will you ever really know?
Whether you just started dating or have been together for awhile, it can be tricky to discuss where you’re headed. Below are four tips for taking your relationship to the next level.
Take a Vacation Together
Taking some time away together is a classic rite of passage for couples deepening their relationships and with good reason. When you and your new love pack your bags and head off for an adventure, there is more going on than taking in new scenery. It gives you a chance to grow together in a few vital ways, such as to see how well you work together as a team and what you are like outside of your everyday routine.
Whether you have moved in together, you are considering it, or you are waiting until you get married and have saved money, it is never too soon to learn if you are financially compatible. Here are some reasons “the financial talk” is so crucial to a healthy relationship as things get serious:
~Learn how you each spend and save money
~Determine if one of you is carrying substantial debt, and try to figure out a strategy to resolve the issue together.
~Figure out how much you want to spend on a wedding, home, car, college savings for your children, and other major purchases
Once you get this talk out of the way, you’ll have a better idea of your financial health, which is important since financial differences are cited as the leading cause of stress in relationships, reports CNBC.
Make Sure Your Respective Visions of the Future Align
In some ways, discussing your finances will spark this conversation. If you skip that step or still need clarification on critical issues, such as having children or deciding where you ultimately want to live, you should have this conversation to help move things forward. You might find that your partner has thought about these same things. Even if you find you have some differences, your ability and willingness to communicate openly and work together to determine the next step together is a huge step in itself.
Continue the Romantic Gestures
Romantic gestures can be a critical part of your relationship at every level. Maybe it starts with flowers on the first date and moves to planning something special for her birthday — but don’t let it stop there. To keep your relationship moving forward, continue with the thoughtful gifts and gestures. For Valentine’s Day this year, consider surprising your significant other with custom jewelry or new lingerie. Whether you are newly embarking on a more physically romantic aspect of your relationship, or you are newlyweds thinking of your future together, lingerie is a conversation starter and so much more.
Start Moving Forward In Your Relationship Together
Hopefully, these tips will give you some ideas and plenty of confidence to take your relationship to wondrous new places together. Whether you travel, talk finances, or decide on your future together, you can make something special with honesty, love, and trust.