8 Problems That Could End Your Relationship
Every relationship has problems from time to time, but not all problems are created equal. Sometimes a minor, or even major fight or skirmish can put you on rocky ground. However, with with love, commitment, and good communication you manage to get on an even keel again. At times something rears its ugly head and the next thing you know, your relationship is hanging on by its very fingertips.
Are there some relationship problems that are insurmountable? Yes, sometimes. However, there are some problems that seem impossible to solve but actually, with a bit of work, you can get past them and have a healthier relationship.
Trust is the foundation of your relationship. It takes trust to share your life, and eventually your home and perhaps a family, with another person. It takes trust to be physically close to another person, and let them see you at your worst as well as at your best.
If you find yourself questioning your partner’s motives and actions, it’s time to take an objective look at your relationship. If they’re genuinely causing your lack of trust, you’ll need to decide whether to work on the relationship or not. If it comes from your own issues, it’s time to work on those so you don’t sabotage your relationship.
Poor communications have an unfortunate and powerful ability to bring down your relationship. Poor communications can cause everything from fights to serious misunderstandings to a woeful lack of connection.
Communication is a skill that you can learn together. Get into the habit of learning to listen without judgment, and put your point across kindly and without accusations.
Of course if you’re invested in your career, you want to do well at it. That’s natural, but work should never take precedence over your partner. That path leads to your partner feeling neglected and a relationship that always takes a back seat – and that’s not healthy.
Set aside quality time once a week for you and your partner to spend time together, and stick to it come hell or high water.
Ultimately, only you are responsible for your happiness and your emotions. Of course you react to your partner’s actions, that’s only natural. But it’s not up to them to make you happy, and making them responsible for your happiness puts a huge strain on your relationship.
Be aware of your own feelings and needs, and take care of them, so you can relate to your partner from a place of wholeness.
Have you ever had a partner, friend, or even a boss, who put you down a lot? It’s a horrible feeling, isn’t it? When people are put down they feel defensive and resentful, which isn’t conducive to a healthy relationship or open communication.
Be mindful of how you talk to your partner, even when fighting (perhaps especially then). Talk to them the way you’d like to be spoken to.
Focus on what you love about your partner and what is good about your relationship. Nurture that instead of looking elsewhere.
Financial issues can wreak havoc even in a strong relationship. Lying to your partner about income, spending, or past or current debt, is a surefire way to destroy the trust between you and spark a fight.
Be honest with each other regarding all things financial. If you’re cohabiting, tackle your household budget together and agree on limits and financial goals.
Treat your partner with the care and attention you would like to receive. Show your partner that you value and respect them, and your relationship will be on more solid ground.
These problems are potential relationship-killers, but as in so many relationship scenarios, the outcome is dependent on your choices. Even a rocky relationship can be fixed, if you both agree to work on it. Can you think of other problems, other than these 8 Problems That Could End Your Relationship?
Author Bio – Rachel Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.
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oh how true this is,,our biggest problem is the grown step children interfering and being total jerks,,this has been going on for 2 yrs ,,im afraid it will be the end of our14 yr marriage,,he allows it to happen and doesnt stand up to them,,so that says a lot to me,,ive been nothing but loving and kind to them and adore the grandchildren,but they seen to have a problem with me and cant or wont tell us what it is,,
This is a very good list, covers the topic well. I think a main one is the lack of trust issue.
For us, it’s a lack of time, lots of work stress that comes home and won’t rest. relationships are tough.
This is a great list and I see how any of these could cause serious problems. I am fortunate enough not to have any of these problems.
These certainly can end a relationship and the biggest problem is money and how to spend it. I make sure to not let this topic ruin my relationship because I have a different spending style than my husband does.