I don’t know about you but I am a bit of a perfectionist. I was brought up with parents who had to everything” just so” and done “exactly right.” I thought that way of life was normal for everyone (I was so wrong). When I got out on my own I found that being perfect isn’t the norm and it is downright hard.
I was nowhere near perfect in college.
I was nowhere near perfect in keeping a budget.
I was nowhere near perfect with my weight.
I was nowhere near perfect in keeping my car cleaned and waxed.
I was nowhere near perfect in my relationships.
Those few points were things I was expected to be perfect in because I was taught to have control over them. But I failed in every single area! Yes, every single one of them! I have learned in my years that life is not perfect, not even close! It doesn’t reflect badly on you if you aren’t perfect. How many households are spotless? How many of us drive a dirty car? How many of us are not at our goal weight (I struggle with this one the most)? Most people aren’t looking for perfection, they are looking for satisfaction!
I have learned that having a family, a roof over my head, food on the table, and laughter is perfect for me! That is my perfection! I have to remind myself everyday to do things to my expectations and no one else’s. I am in control and if I want to be perfect in one area of my life… I go for it. I just want to be happy and have fun and not worry if it’s done right. I am so lucky I have realized this…have you?
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Great article. I need to “stop” being a perfectionist. It drives me crazy at times, that everything has to be well perfect. I love our home, my family and all that but it’s hard to overcome something I’ve been for so long.
This is an amazingly written post and so very, very true-I’m struggling with my perfectionism, and it’s a daily thing. School is particularly hard for me because of it as well, but reading this, it puts everything into perspective 🙂
This is just what I needed to read, so thank you!
We all fall short – because we are not perfect. We must find that delicate balance of doing/being our best without setting ourselves up for the “perfectionist deity”. That is why we are simply man/woman and not God.