Wow. Just wow. Last night while I was watching the news, I heard a story of a website that catches cheaters. Or more accurately, where cheaters can be reported. So if someone is having an affair, and another person knows about it, they can say so on CheaterVille. My jaw must have dropped to my toes, as I listened further.
What is this world coming to? I mean, I don’t condone being unfaithful (at all!), but where does the lack of privacy end? It is not only a privacy issue, but what if someone “assumed” wrong and put a name on the site, and it broke up a marriage when an affair wasn’t taking place at all? There are mean and nasty people everywhere and I imagine that it is this type of person who would just enter the name(s) of their enemy out of pure hatred. Again, this type of action could destroy a marriage in a heartbeat. If you want to catch a cheater, find your husband’s secret cell phone.
I checked out the CheaterVille website this morning, out of curiosity and I found that:
- Just by entering a first and last name, as well as a city, will bring up a list of “known cheaters”.
- There is a listing of “popular” cheaters. What?
- Oh and let’s not forget “featured” cheaters. Why on earth would one cheater be featured over another?
- A photo can also be posted of the person you are reporting as a cheater.
- There is a map showing the areas of cheaters.
- It is mostly women who are reporting cheating – of other women (can you say jealous girlfriend anyone?)
According to the person who launched this site, he did it so people could release their anger, tell others by warning them, and also to help them seek revenge. He decided to start the site after he found out that the wife of his friend (who was deployed) had been cheating.
You can learn more about CheaterVille in this video.
This reminds me of the Ashley Madison website for those wanting to have an affair. GAG.
Cheating is bad, mkay?
So what do you think? Should cheaters be outed? Any other thoughts?
26 Responses
You know what, if I am honest, I have to say that i love the IDEA of this website, but there’s no way that it won’t be corrupted by mean and spiteful people. I bet most of the people listed aren’t even cheaters.
I agree…I think it opens up just plain spiteful people, probably more than it’s intended use.
Interesting question! Apparently the site is protected under Federal Law, since the owner himself isn’t the one writing the comments. I really don’t know!
Hi Jennifer,
Just for the record, I’m a former Marine and you are right, I started it after I came back from an overseas deployment with a good friend of mine to find out that his wife had been cheating on him the entire time. I wondering where you got your information that I launched the site so people could seek revenge? I’ve never said that, and although you might not agree with the site, millions of people do. And that’s what’s so great about our Country, I fought for you to have your opinion and for others to have theirs. Good luck with your website, all the best.
James
Hi James…You are correct, everyone is entitled to their opinion and I’m simply stating mine too :0
I found that information in the Cheaterville in the Press section of your website…the link is here: http://www.cheaterville.com/?page=press&id=161
Thanks for stopping by!
I think you are missing the beauty of the site. There are people in the world who are predators. They victimize person after person. Its a cycle and after you’ve had your life destroyed and your name slandered by the cheater because they always lie and tell everyone you know a different story than what really happened, and by then even if you are emotionally able to go repeat the gory details which is painful to do most people think your just bitter bc you were dumped even when you were the dumper. These people do long term damage to peoples lives. And if you had known you never would have trusted the person.
Cheaterville is a way to get a heads up. Its victims taking care of each other and potential victims. Its taking your power back. I find it sad that we live in a world were adultery is accepted and websites that assist adultery are acceptable but a website that makes people accountable for it is condemned. Cheating is literally hazardous to peoples health. Society needs to stop blaming victims like people who get cheated on, because there are some real sociopaths out there and you can be targeted just because you are there, it doesn’t make you a weak person when someone does dirt to you it makes them a bad person. Some of you all have that real confused.
These are very good points, and I thank you for commenting. I guess my biggest issue is that someone can just list anyone there (out of spite, for instance).
Jennifer- Thank YOU!
I hope James is keeping up with this. These current posts are exactly TRUE and to the point!
The unfortunate and truthful matter is that there already are people with emotional or mental issues, with some unresolved relationship trauma that found relief with this site. These individuals will go to any length to take back their loss and find vengeance. No matter what.
I had no knowledge of this site until yesterday. We think sometimes that we’ve seen or heard or read it all. I was beyond dumbfounded at what I read. It was disgusting and yes, great word, vile.
James went to protect us only to come back and do what? To have an opinion? With or without him, we already have been graced with that option.
So, I’ve got a great one, how about to be proud to have served and to carry that for a lifetime? Instead, it’s such a disappointment. Kinda sick in the stomach. Worse yet, I read what was written and oh well. Let it go, bunch of BS.
As a friend said, “it’s not how you fall, it’s how you recover”. It’s a shame that James opted to create something so negative.
Again, thank you Jennifer-admin. That is what you call empowering and positive!
Holy crap. Cheating is vile, disgusting, and for me unforgivable, but I would never use a site like that! I wouldn’t hesitate to tell people verbally that my former boyfriend or spouse had cheated on me, but I wouldn’t do it this way. Like you said, way too easy for other people to lie and destroy someone’s life. The creator wants people to have revenge? How does revenge help anyone? The best revenge is to leave the guy or girl and move on with your life and be happy without them. In fact, be happIER without them. Being nasty, spiteful, and vicious only confirms to the cheater that it’s true, no one can live happily without them, so why should they stop cheating? So get over them, move on, and no matter what you’re really feeling, never ever let them know you’re hurting. What a horrible site!
What’s to prevent someone from just putting someone they don’t like up there just to be spiteful? I don’t like that!
I know…that’s what concerns me too.
I was reported as a cheater and my info is still up there. I don’t know who posted this thing about me, but the website’s owners don’t let me identify the one who is behind it. I’ve read a lot of articles about lost cases, where people try to sue Cheaterville with no luck. All of the information about me being fabricated in a very nasty and unpleasant way. That being said I don’t want to pay $200 to a fishy web site to remove the posting about me ever since I believe that it’s from the same guys who created that horrible cheater web site.
WHOA!!!! I so agree with you that this could TOTALLY be misused by psychos! LOL Seriously though, when we live in a society that has vicious ex-boyfriends setting up the rapes of their ex-girlfriends thru Craigslist, then a site like this is just asking for lies to be posted to hurt others!
WOW…I agree that it is going a bit too far and I do think angry and revengeful people will unjustly report. I mean, think of “mean girls” out there who would do this just to brandish someone like that?!!
I also agree that I like the idea of this. I have been on the receiving end of this and it is first heartbreaking and then when you get up and dust yourself off, you DO want to protect others from the lies and pretense and let people know. I wish I had known about the character of the men (yes, I had it happen more than once) so I could have put on my Nike’s and RAN! Now I have 6 kids and I have already seen the antics and the betrayal of those who pretend to be one way and ACT another with my older kids. If this ever happened to me again I would shout it from the rooftops, probably take out a newspaper ad, circulate pictures and all.LOL. But never put it on a website for strangers to see. I wonder though if people KNEW this was not going to be a private matter and people would find out, would they do it? I would not be disrespected personally again and be made into a fool. A part of me would just want to have the right “story” out there just to save face. BUT, remember…the best revenge is living well….and that means moving on and making better choices and being happy with someone else OR choosing to remain un attached. Sometimes you just have to take your lumps and let it go, be happy you are are out of the situation and that person is someone ELSE’s problem.
I SO saw that and started a post then got hung up on other things. that was insane but I loved it. !! I can add a few x’s to that
LOL I’m sure we all can!
As someone who has had my name put in a post on Cheaterville, I find the site extremely disparaging, degrading, demoralizing, and destructive to the types of people that would NOT cheat. Do non-cheaters want to foster this type of environment?
In my case, the poster is misinformed, and the information about me in the post is incorrect. I think it is BS that the solution to the posting of inaccurate, personal information (the poster listed my children’s names, our location, my occupation, and the schools they attend!), is for the site creator to tell me that I should reply to the post saying that it is incorrect. REALLY? You want me to validate both the poster and your website by saying, “hey, this stuff about me isn’t true,” and you get to leave up my children’s names and other personal information?
I reported the post to no avail. And, every time someone Googles my name, the words cheat and whore are in the first Google result. I have signed up for countless websites and done extensive cross-linking to try to bring down the results in the search, with little luck.
My other option is to pay a website (also probably owned by Cheaterville) to take down my name. So…they can take down my name, but I can’t?
This site has to be made illegal. Why is it that nothing can be done to help me or my children in this matter?
My only hope is to appeal to the poster, a crazy person, to take down my information. So, I posted her name along with the same words she used in my post. Now, her Google results are also forever tarnished. Cheaterville effectively made me become a liar and mean-spirited person in order to help me save my children from defamation. THANKS.
Don’t think it can’t happen to you. All it takes is someone who is a little bit vengeful to get your name AND PICTURE up on this site.
Sincerely,
A NON-CHEATER
Oh my goodness…I am so sorry to hear about this! This is exactly what I feared for people with a site like that. Anybody can say anything – true or not. I hadn’t even thought about Google searches. I think that is incredibly unfair, and for her to post info about your children too? Their names? Why on earth would someone do that? I wish I had a solution for you, but it sees like defamation of character for sure. I guess you’d have to file it against the poster instead of Cheaterville though, since they are supposedly protected? I would be furious…but more furious that my kids names were on there. I wish you the best of luck, and please keep me posted!
Thank you Jennifer for starting this post. My wife and I are both victims of James’ horrible site. Someone we both know has tried to make are lives miserable for the past year. This individual is a sociopath and has hurt many people including her own family. Now she has used Cheaterville to cause more problems for us. We were able to get her disgusting post hidden, but when you google our name a link still shows up on the first page. In addition, it was almost two months before we knew about the post. We’ve reached out to cheaterville, but they have stopped responding. I’m meeting with an attorney next week to explore if we can take legal action against James and his site. We’ve informed them about this lie and the damage it is causing us, I would suspect there would be a sympathetic court somewhere that would agree once a website like this knows about a damaging situation it helped create and does nothing to remedy it, that they then should be held liable. The worst thing is, my wife suffers from a weak heart and every time we have to discuss this horrible human being that mad our lives miserable I can see it causing her great anxiety and heart working overtime to catch her breath. If anyone knows of other innocent people that have been hurt by cheaterville and James, we might be interested in joining for a class-action to take this site down or at least force them to post and verify the real names of people creating the post. Jennifer, you were very smart for seeing how this site could harm innocent people…you were right and it is happening. Can’t believe it’s happening to us.
please let me know what yoou have found out I would certainly be with you for a suit!
Almost identical to the stories above…I am listed on this site. My customer searched my name for work and that is the first thing that comes up…I can have it removed for 199 dollars, from a site recomeneded by the “legal team” I cant believe this is legal and that my photos can be used and my information put up along with a fabricated story. Absolutely disgusting!
Jennifer,
As someone who deals with people who have been posted on these sorts of sites on a daily basis, I believe Cheaterville.com acts as a double edged sword. On one hand it can forewarn others about a cheater who mistreated them, but on the other hand it acts as an outlet for jealous friends or ex-lovers to smear someones name anonymously without any justifiable facts. Once a post has been written about an individual, it is very likely that the post will come up at the top of the search results when “Googleing” that persons name. If an individual has become a victim of false and defamatory post, it will most likely have a negative impact on their personal reputation and future endeavors. That is why I co-founded http://www.reputationresolutions.com – to help people who have been falsely accused and defamed on “cheater” and gossip sites around the web. Do you accept guest blog posts? I would love to write a follow up post to this…
Sincerely,
Bryce
Hello Bryce!
Thank you for commenting about your site – I think this will be helpful to many people! Unfortunately I am not accepting guest posts at this time, but I will definitely reach out if that changes.
Thanks!
I was the victim of a psycho ex boyfriend who thought it would be fun to post lies about me on Cheaterville.com and 25 other websites after I found HIM cheating on me. I have in the last nine months worked very diligently to get 23 of the 26 sites removed but nearly lost my job over it and have suffered every day due to the lies he posted online about me. I have legal recourse but at this time don’t have the 20k to see this through legally. What surprises me is that people confuse freedom of speech with defamation. You do not have the “right” to post lies about people online – PERIOD. As for my ex, I hope some day he rots in HELL!
This site needs to be shut down. My husband had an affair with a crazy women. She knew he was married. They only seen each other during working hours a couple times. As most unfaithful men do. He is a good man that had a horrible childhood that he never worked out. He has worked on himself thru counseling.I decided to stay inn the marriage. She never wanted anything so she said. She has posted him five times on this site with tons of lies. We had two post removed for 200 each. She than posted both of us together. With pictures of us from what I thought was my private Facebook account. 99% of what she wrote was a lie. Than posted me alone. Saying vulgar sexual things that I have done. None true. Than the kicker…she sends my minor son a link to all the post and tells him to read about his parents. I found out she is on every dating website and post men all the time. She used my husbands employer as my husbands name on one of the post. Threatens to come to my home. That my son would like his new step mom. I went to the police made a report. Next step is district attorney to file criminal charges. Although she denies everything she may be held responsible for stealing photos and false deformation. Why should some crazy one be given an outlet like this. It is soulless. I am a very patient responsible adult but after all this crazy i posted her except I told the truth.
Hi,
I was recently cheated and felt like telling everyone, but I stopped my self. The more emtional I get, the more likely I want to tell everyone.
I have this quote to share: “the past is long gone, the future will never be here and the only thing eternal is the present”. And I have used it in my broken heart.